Our “story” is what we often use to identify who we are; but is it really that helpful? If you had an experience early in life which left you feeling like a victim for example, potentially that role will go on to form the person you will be in the future … who wants to feel and act like a victim for the rest of their lives?!
This will most likely be at an unconscious level to being with, but then the way people react to us because of this role or sub personality (as its often known) will become the norm. Sometimes the attention we gain through this role becomes our way of feeling loved or accepted, perhaps it’s a case of any attention is better than none … This story leads us to retelling it over and over again to reaffirm who we are and gain attention/energy at the same time, which not only keeps the memory of the incident alive in our minds but also at a cellar level too. All of which impacts the victim mentality, which leads us to view our reality through the eyes of a victim, potentially leading us to attract even more experiences of being victimised! Talk about make your own life hard work …
Not only do we form control dramas from the adults around us as children; we continue to form them all the way through our lives, until the point when we realise what we are creating in each moment.
The best reason to shed our stories is because we can never truly heal ourselves from within our story. We can only resign to accepting our lot in the script of our life; locking ourselves into the suffering written within that particular drama. If we are going to spin yarns about our life journey, we should make them grand and empowering! Is it not better to be a brave traveller who’s life taught them how to trust their instincts? Rather than to see yourself as a victim of betrayal; who now cannot bring themselves to trust others …
None of our “stories” are the real truth, just the way we have chosen to react to an event. They’re scripts we have created. They are not life, because life exists only in each moment; they are memories, thoughts in your mind. Keeping you stuck in the past scripted as the misunderstood daughter, the unappreciated artist, or the victim of chronic illness.
Want to know more?
Go to www.essentialawareness.org/life-direction
Have a go yourself … make the choice to release these characters you play in life:
- On a strip of paper for each one, right down all the roles you currently play in your life. E.G. Mother, wife, friend, provider, person trying to release weight or give up smoking…
- Then take a skewer and place the strip of paper on the end of it (one at a time, so you can focus solely each individual role)
- Take a few seconds and focus on this role and how it affects your life, then blow all of that and your intention to release it onto the paper before setting light to it. Watch it burn and as its dies away imagine that you have released the future of that character. Do this until its extinguished, until you are no longer mother, daughter, woman. In doing so, you’ll unravel the energetic cords the keep you bound to that character.
- With roles that concern others in you life, hold the affirmation: “ I am placing in the fire who I expect you to be … so that you can become who you came in this word to be”
